Grandma Buhro

Natalie Buhro is a treasured council member of the NEI Women's Council. However, her favorite title is "Grandma." Like many grandmothers, Natalie has lots of wisdom, stories and laughter to share. Read below what she has to say!

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Tiffany Ball and her Grandma Carol, Mom Lisa and Sisters Natalie & Nicole

Jeanette Benbow's children with their Grandma Laura & Great Grandma Jenny

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September 15, 2016

Praying and Teaching Children to Pray

 

A few months ago my father passed away.  Our family gathered to celebrate Dad’s finishing the race he began so many years ago​, to join Christ (and my mom) in the heavenly realm. What a special time we shared!  The cherished memories were sprinkled with laughter, sighs of unbelief and tears!  Our parents’ Godly legacy has served as a shining example to many for the need to have God as our foundation.  As my younger brother and I parted that day he mentioned in passing that I was now the oldest member of the clan, to which we each snickered.

 

Mom and Dad always had walls full of family pictures. One wall was of the generations that came before. These were reminders to be thankful for God’s provisions. Another wall was strewn with current photos of family members: their four children & spouses, grandchildren and great-grandchildren. This was their prayer wall.  Each day they faithfully sent prayers to the heavenly Father interceding for each of us.

 

In the days that followed our family gathering ​at Dad's passing,​  God placed on my heart the desire to carry on this role of family prayer warrior. Those forty-four names are called out each day after my prayers of worship and thanksgiving.  Then recently I felt the Holy Spirit guiding me to accept the challenge to teach my younger grandchildren the importance of prayer and that it ​is more than a rote prayer at meal time and bed time.  But other than by example, what strategies could I use?

This week my friend forwarded an email ​incluing​ the Lydia’s ​Lifeline newsletter.  A couple of the articles were so appropriate with ideas I can use in various situations.  Here I share the one I’ll be using soon:

 

Praying with Children by Sonia, a Lydia prayer​  leader in Illinois
 

…..When we started talking about when Jesus withdrew to pray and what prayer was about and its importance in our daily lives, I asked [the children]​ if they prayed and in what moments prayer happens. Immediately they answered me:  One said, "I pray at night when I am scared!"   Another added, “I felt sick in school and prayed; then I felt better!” Someone else said, “I prayed for my dad, and now he's better.”

 

I had made dice with the words, “Thank you” (Gracias), “Forgive me” (Perdoname), “

Please” (Por favor), and I ​L​ove ​You."​

(Te amo). The kids would roll the dice and do a prayer with the theme of the words they landed on. The kids were enthusiastic, a​s​ we began our prayer session. Every prayer that the kids made w​as​ precious! Some sentences were,

  • “Forgive me because sometimes I do not obey or do not do what I have to do.”

  • “Thank you for the people who are doing something for our Hispanic community this summer.”

  • “Please heal my brother."​

  • ​“I love You, Lord, because You are powerful!”

 

When I asked them if they believed that all human beings should pray and get closer to God​,​ I was told, “Yes but unfortunately not everyone wants too.”  Then somebody said, I think we should pray for them.” “Yes,” I answered them, “Let’s pray for revival.”

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July 13, 2016

Cross-Stitched Advice

Recently in a conversation with one of my grandsons a thought was shared that I hope will remain with him throughout life:

“May the words you say be worth hearing and the words you write be worth reading!”

As a grandparent I have a charge to listening carefully to what my offspring are saying and teach them of the responsibility we have to reflect God’s will in our world.

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salm 19:14 (KJV) "Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my strength, and my redeemer."

1 Peter 4:11 (NIV) "If anyone speaks, they should do so as one who speaks the very words of God. If anyone serves, they should do so with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ. To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever. Amen."

Perhaps I should take up the art of embroidery or cross-stitch to make a wall hanging for him, for each grandchild, ..friend, …neighbor….. but where would I stop? The lesson is so important for us ALL!

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July 13, 2016

It's My Turn

A summertime tradition in the Buhro family is for each grandchild to spend a week at Grandpa and Grandma’s house. The week’s activities vary with each grandchild because the selected adventures are chosen with two things in mind: to match the individual’s unique interests and to allow the child to see what is valued by us, the grandparents.

Usually a trip to the Shipshewana flea market is included AFTER a routine chore is finished. Ten dollars is shared with the child with the stipulation that purchases must include something for each family member THEN the remaining money is his/her’s to buy merchandise for personal enjoyment. Over the years it has been fascinating to observe the changes in the selection process as well as the items secured as the grandchild grows older. 

Last summer one of our grandsons who is especially creative spent three hours each morning at Art Camp hosted by our local art studio. After breakfast with Grandpa he would invest time exploring various artistic techniques -- first instruction then a project on which to apply the skill being developed. Friday evening we enjoyed the community Art Show featuring the works of the student artists. The show included creations by the individual and a group mural. What pride he had in his efforts for the week!

Activities change from year to year and grandchild to grandchild. For the grandchild who loves animals it is a trip to the zoo or local animal shelter. For the one who is intrigued by science it is a trip to Ft. Wayne Science Central or a local nature preserve. The sports minded grandchild enjoys an excursion to the local bowling alley or miniature golf course. For the fashion minded it involves a trip to the fabric store to pick a favorite fabric followed by beginning sewing instruction to make a special pillowcase. The important concept is that the child recognizes that his/her talents and interests are recognized and valued. But some things remain constant. Everyone wants to go fishing with Grandpa on our pond to catch the ever present hungry bluegills or bass. Roasting marshmallows around the bonfire under the stars is also a favorite. 

One significant fact that I have neglected to share is that we take the grandchildren ONE at a time. Our oldest son’s family has 5 children. Family visits are a busy time and somewhat hectic with everyone sharing and doing their own thing. One of the grandchildren tended to be boisterous in the large group settings to gain attention which sometimes became offensive. But during HIS week at Grandpa and Grandma’s house it provided an opportunity to focus on the individual child. With plenty of time for uninterrupted interaction we discovered he could be quite a thought-provoking conversationalist. In Grandpa’s words “You know he really is a neat kid when you get him alone.” 

As I reflect on these memories of special times with grandchildren I am reminded that during my personal time with God I can become distracted by too much going on around me. I need to find a time and place to be alone with God. A quiet time when God and I can focus on what He would have for me. In Matthew 14:23 I am reminded even Jesus, my example, found time to be alone to pray.

Matthew 14:23 (KJV) And when he had sent the multitudes away, he went up into a mountain apart to pray: and when the evening was come, he was there alone.

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July 13, 2016

Grandma Buhro-My Treasured Title

Our two adult sons & their wives, 6 grandchildren and students in classes in which I serve as a substitute teacher all catch my attention with this greeting. 

As a retired middle school math teacher, I missed the contact with students (but NOT the paper work) so I began volunteering in a local elementary school where our younger son and his wife both taught. When asked what the students were going to call me, the students decided ” Mrs. Buhro” wouldn’t work because they already dealt with a “Mrs. Buhro”. After much brainstorming they came up with the idea of calling me “Grandma Buhro”.

What’s in a name? Do you remember how some students acted when there was a substitute teacher in your classes (testing the limits to see how much they could get by with)? Now compare that to your feelings when “grandma” would show up in your life. Which situation gave you the feeling that you as an individual had worth? In which case would your name be used as a term of endearment? Thus the title, Grandma Buhro, carried over from my role as a volunteer to the times when I served as the substitute teacher in the various classrooms. The students’ behaviors and willingness to become involved in learning situations usually reflected this difference in mindset. NOTICE I said usually? There were some exceptions. 

As I reflect on these thoughts, my mind is carried to 2 Timothy 1:5 where Paul wrote: I am reminded of your sincere faith, which first lived in your grandmother Lois and in your mother Eunice and, I am persuaded, now lives in you also. (NIV) 

As a grandmother I have a responsibilities to set a biblical example for ALL those who call me “Grandma Buhro”. Some will reflect behaviorsand a willingness to become involved in God-pleasing situations because of my influence in their lives. BUT I must also be realistic and remember there will be some exceptions, for God has designed these choices to be made by each individual. My obligation is to be obedient to God’s leadings and pray faithfully for all who call me “grandma”.  

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